Thanks Citygirl. I am sorry you suffered so much but it sounds like now you are doing great. I see what you are saying about hiding/lashing out. Generally, she hides it for herself and everyone else and lashs out at me. She is seeing a new age type counselor, but I don't think she is being honest about what is truly going on. Again, it is prefereable for her to blame me, blame our relationship as the source of her problems.
I hope I am not coming accross as saying some variaton if 'Its not me, its you' or, 'the problem with our M is that you are so danm mixed up'. That is not what I am saying. I want to be clear about that. Throughout our four year marriage I have consistently and activley worked on our relatinship issues. We have done sustantial MC and a ton of reading on the side. She has not been the only one working on our relationship. In fact, much of the time, I have been alone in this effort.
It is very hard to admit there is a problem. But in my wifes case, even more so. My wifes mother was/is bipolar and her last husband suicided. She blames the meds. Thus, she is strongly anti-medication. For the most part, I agree with her on that class of drugs but I also think they have a limited role in recovery.
Do you think there is anything I can do to help? I haven't read your sitch, but is there sometheing you would have liked your H to do?
