ACJ, The stressors of the holiday have gotten to everyone. The weather hasn't helped either. I'm sorry everything sort of blew up last night, but hopefully your daughter will get her act together and think about what the season stands for and come home. She's certainly not going to want to play second fiddle to a new baby this season.
Your note to your xh was very nice. I'm proud of you for sending it. Let's hope everything will settle down and he'll talk to her about returning home.
Be kind to yourself today. You've had some rough patches along the way in recent days.
Please try to enjoy the holidays.
Sit quietly, the answers will reveal themselves when you least expect them to. The past is gone, the present is a gift and you need to focus on today, allow the future to reveal itself when it is ready.