Could you and the wife spare a weekend to go to Retrouvaille? I ask because it is a very different approach for both of you. I see your marriage as a power struggle -- either you get your way, or she gets hers, but never the two of you compromising. Retrouvaille asks you both to go with open minds and willing hearts - two things that I don't see either of you using at home. From there they elicit conversations between you that involve you as equal partners. This would be a big change in dynamic for the two of you. But you might be able to get something out of it. And, if not, then it was just a weekend.
