Thanks snodderly I waited and calmed down for a day or two and then wrote as you suggested-caring but not too intrusive.His Mum is very old he is an only son and very close to his parents and will be devastated when her time comes.My impulse is to go up and support him but I offered help if he needs it and have to step back now. Isnt life a mixture of the wonderful,funny and tragic?Do have a lovely Christmas x
