I can appreciate some constructive advice. The book recommendations are good -- I've seen both of these in the bookstore and perused them. I have found the first one in my local library system and placed a request for it.
To all, I know I have to be conscious that I too don't become that toxic parent I see in my ex. I want -- no, need -- to detach from her drama especially around my two S's, for all our sakes. But I am still obligated to stand ready and to be prepared to defend my position when and where necessary. It's just going to be a struggle and a balancing act.
Right now I just want to get through the holidays.
BTW, I got a response from xW this evening. As expected, she denied that the overnight constituted a violation of the cohabitation clause of the consent order. Just her typical moral relativism again. She actually made some lame excuse that it was no different than if they had all stayed in a hotel somewhere -- as if that's any more allowable.
Whatever. I've calmly stated my position on this one incident and there's nothing more for me to say about it. I'm not responding to anymore talk from her on this matter.
