From my perspective, as a reasonably healthy, active woman, it's an anathema to me to consider being in an intimate relationship that doesn’t involve consensual touching of my body. All of my body.
Thanks for the answer! I love hearing that. I hope the man in your life feels lucky; I know I would.
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I find it difficult to understand why and how a woman could sleep in the same bed as a man every night and NOT want to be touched like that. For me it would be like sleeping with my brother or a cousin. Gross.
I totally agree. My feelings exactly.
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I was abused as a child and for me that experience has ensured that I have some pretty serious commitment issues that I’m still working on – but fortunately not the sexual issues you guys detail here about your wives.
How did you resolve the effect the abuse might have had on your sexuality? And what do you mean by commitment issues?
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We talk often about how some men don’t know how to touch intimately – some are too rough, some are too quick, some think that going straight for the grope is a turn on (and for some women, sometimes, it is). Communication and intimacy are the keys for women to help their partners get the touching right.
Absolutely! And imagining your partner's experience as you touch them, and trying to read their reactions. Unless you're aiming for an occasional quickie, I would think many women want the same as me -- very light and slow touches at first, as if to make your body ache for more touching. It seemed my wife appreciated that the first few times we made out. But instead of progressing and learning more about how we like to be touched, it seemed my wife lost interest in that. Big disappointment. She just wanted deep pressure back rubs, and nothing more. No bridge to anything else. The slow sensous light touching which I love just seems "creepy" to her.
And when I hear other people, like you, describe what's normal in your life, I sometimes feel like I'm the "woman" in my relationship, at least with regard to intimacy and communication.
