I will be ready for the laundry list. This will be hard not to react...completely opposite of me ya know? but I'll suck it up!
I know it won't be easy and is against your nature. If you can, think of the laundry list as something good for you. It's never easy when someone points out your mistakes. Especially when they come within a harsh context. The positive side of this is that you can use them to improve yourself.
Think of it as a Road Map or Instruction Manual, instead. Digest it all before commenting or acting. You might get a window into his soul and not just a bunch of criticisms. All depends on how you choose to receive it and respond to it.
Gardener
"My soul, be satisfied with flowers, With fruit, with weeds even; but gather them In the one garden you may call your own." Cyrano deBergerac
Luv... Accept my friend request. And, I will double smack you if you tell me one of those teenage girls in that pic is YOU!!!! You can't look that gorgeous and young!!!
Me-46, D-21, S15, S13
After many years w/my head in the sand... I FILED Divorced 6/2011
The average woman would rather have beauty than brains, because the average man can see better than he can think.
Luv... Accept my friend request. And, I will double smack you if you tell me one of those teenage girls in that pic is YOU!!!! You can't look that gorgeous and young!!!
LOL silly girl - I'm in the middle of my sister and best friend...us 40 yr olds!
M44 H41 M20 T23 3 older teens Bomb Nov 09 "i'm not happy" EA Nov 09 w/coworker Another PA in Mar 10 I Filed Apr 10 D final Dec 10
We went to dinner...ended up sitting by the fireplace at this restaurant. We had some beers and talked. H kept saying this is nice. We were supposed to go shopping but never made it. We were just enjoying the relaxation. He said, "can we just sit here for a while?"
We talked a little about R. I told him what G told me to say bout (sometimes I get caught up in my own hurt feelings and I want to understand yours) stuff....well no big reaction just a nod.
When we left he said, "that was really nice I'm glad you spent time with me." Luv is not understanding cuz there is no affection towards me along with these words. Anyway...we went to bed and he said, "night sweetie"...hasn't called me sweetie forever...and still no hug or even a kiss.
CONfused
M44 H41 M20 T23 3 older teens Bomb Nov 09 "i'm not happy" EA Nov 09 w/coworker Another PA in Mar 10 I Filed Apr 10 D final Dec 10
Its working Luv. Its a slow process... go through the last few days of your thread and look for all the "first time in a long time's."
Keep it up. He need some time to process... remember that post I did about the four unholy words? Well, us guys just need some time to let things sink in.
Back up your words with actions. The ice will thaw, I'm sure of it. Remember, slips up will set him back. He's skeptical at the moment because there are a lot of changes going on in your dynamic and he's not sure if they are for real.
Remember, only a couple of days ago you told this man to "get lost." You think you're confused? Imagine what's going on in his mind at the moment.
