Is it common for women who are in healthy, active, normal sexual relationships to not want to have their partner touch their "private parts", such as their breasts and vulva? I'm of course, speaking of activities during petting, foreplay, or sex. I'm not talking about the "unwanted" and inconsiderate groping by the horny husband when the wife is in the middle of making dinner and the pot is boiling over and smoke is coming out of the oven.
From my perspective, as a reasonably healthy, active woman, it's an anathema to me to consider being in an intimate relationship that doesn’t involve consensual touching of my body. All of my body.
I find it difficult to understand why and how a woman could sleep in the same bed as a man every night and NOT want to be touched like that. For me it would be like sleeping with my brother or a cousin. Gross.
I was abused as a child and for me that experience has ensured that I have some pretty serious commitment issues that I’m still working on – but fortunately not the sexual issues you guys detail here about your wives.
I’m a 30 something year old woman. I have 2 sisters and dozens of women friends who all talk about sex and relationships a lot, and (assuming they are being honest and I can’t think of any reason they wouldn’t be) none of them have ever suggested they don’t like their partner touching them intimately. Quite the contrary in fact. We talk often about how some men don’t know how to touch intimately – some are too rough, some are too quick, some think that going straight for the grope is a turn on (and for some women, sometimes, it is). Communication and intimacy are the keys for women to help their partners get the touching right.
I would argue that the answer to your question … with the caveat that all people are different (some men like oral sex, some men prefer their nipples teased, some men like role playing etc etc etc) … – it’s not common. In my experience, women - just like men - love being touched intimately.
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