Thank you Soleil - it helps to know I'm not the only one, although sorry you have this issue too. What is that?! I find it astonishingly unbelievable.
Anyhow, marked improvement since starting MC. The C is really good and definitely encourages H not to blow these things off.
H and I had another good night tonight with S - best xmastime in years. Perhaps I'm not taking my family for granted this year, I appreciate more. I have always harbored negative associations @ xmas due to my childhood, but this year I am treasuring every moment. Ginderbread houses, playdough ornaments, music concerts, and even though my H doesn't live here, I am relieved that the arguing is diminishing, our relationship seems to be turning for the better, my strength is increasing, and that there is hope for a new future for us.