Wife showed up unannounced at 4 pm today, while we were at the our family physician (my son was having asthma). She was immediately angry that I wasn't there, and tried to call. I texted her, and she immediately came to the doc appointment. We then went to McDonalds as a family. There, she let me know that she was planning on taking the kids tonight, no questions asked. I told her I wasn't ok with that, and long story short, we deadlocked on her taking the kids without my permission. She admitted also that she has moved in with dbag (whose divorce was official today, according to her). I am absolutely against the boys going over to that guys house while she is still married to me. Absolutely. Anyway, she took my youngest from me and put him in her van, and I took my oldest with me (I thought she was going to relent and let my younger boy come also) in my car, and drive home, her following.
So we drove back to the house, and she refused to come in (she said "Send him out to me" as if he was an object of some sort). I refused. I called the local police non-emergency line, and verified that she has the same rights as I do to the kids, which I was assuming). So she drove off, and is staying at dbag's house now, with my son, without his inhaler. Nice.
We talked on the phone. She said she has had an attorney since Nov, but then also said she hasn't paid him anything yet (hmm..?!). I think she's simply using her dbag to solicit advice from his lawyer.
I just want a peaceful Xmas eve and Xmas. I said she is welcome to come over both days (I gave in...) but that she is not able to stay, and I'm not ok with her taking them to dbag's house. She will be dropping off my little guy in the morning as she heads to work (!) and we plan to meet at church later in the day.
Any advice welcome. I sent my attorney an email to call me immediately tomorrow. I just don't like not having the legal separation rules in place. I don't trust her. And I know I cannot always keep the boys from that dbag, but I feel like it is absolutely something I'm not willing to budge on. At least until we have some rules in place. But are legal separation terms enforceable by law?
