Litigate all you want - doesn't stop hurt and emotional damage. You may have the legal rights on your side - but at what cost do you excercise them?
Agreed. But it is not my intent for this to lead to litigation. The fact is that neither of us is any longer in any financial position to be able to jump back into court. My aim is to hopefully deter xW from these actions -- which I know is quite unlikely given her past behavior -- but more-so to begin to establish a body of documentation should for some reason she force us back into court anyway. What I may choose to do is one thing, but she has already been proven capable of letting the lawsuits to fly on the most spurious of reasonings.
And I know she tries to plant ideas in my head to try to goad me into doing what she wants, even to paint me as the bad guy. I have seen that. But then there are some actions to which I cannot afford not to act upon. Sometimes not acting has greater consequences.
Remember, Saffie, the discussion we had a long time ago about xW's talk about wanting to commit suicide when she was facing being M'ed to me? Do you recall how you belittled her talk as hollow threats to coerce me to do things her way? I had a friend suggest the possibility, knowing about my severe depression at the time of the bomb, that xW was trying to plant the notion of suicide in my own head. Hoping I might take the hint.
Cynical as H*ll, I know -- still, at this point, I can no longer rule that one out. But I'd rather not think about that too much.
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Don't make it worse - don't make your W want to poison those boys against you any more than she may already have done.
No, you're right. But I don't have to do anything myself. She is going to do that anyway no matter what I say or do. And if she doesn't her mother will do it for her.
