On me: I am happy to report that I am finally feeling some anger towards her. I've stopped feeling sorry for myself and my situation.
Feeling the anger is a good step forward IMHO. It means that you are moving out of victim mode and realizing that it is not all your fault. Just find some healthy outlets for it so you don't let it affect your ability to remain calm, cool and collected about your sitch
Originally Posted By: gutwrenching
and her getting even more angry helped because I don't deserve the anger, I didn't have the A.
I agree with everyone that you should set a boundary about the open disrespect at home, especially in front of the children. As far as the anger is concerned, it could be that it shows that she still has a lot of emotion which some folks on this forum think is a good thing (provided it is not out of control, violent, etc,).
The opposite of Love is not hate. The opposite of love is indifference. My W is completely indifferent right now and I would love to see just a little bit of anger sometimes just to give me hope that she is not completely checked out of the R.
