I guess I have finally realized that if she is going to come back it has to be of her own accord and I have to make myself into the person she wants to be with, but not for her.
I think the number one best way would be for her to want to return to the M and wamt to go to work on the R. The next best way is for her to be "willing" to return and willing to work on the R. Then the third best would be "willing to be willing". After that....it kind of just goes down hill. But, that last part of your quote is right on the mark!
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How can anyone be blind to the devastation their actions are causing their family?
I wished I knew how to explain that.....but I don't how. Some of it is "blindness" in a way. Their mind is so fogged up and....it's like they can see, but they don't "care" like they would when they are "normal". It's almost like a disease, except there is one huge difference....."free will". There is always a choice for a WAS in an A.
It is not about what you feel should work in your M. It is about doing the work that gets the right results. Do what works!
