I want my kids to understand right from wrong. Maybe I am being too "hands on" with them when xW is much too laissez faire on the moral issues. For example, after chastising me for hardly ever taking our kids to church on my own when we were still M (mostly because I didn't really enjoy going without her, imagine that), she now espouses a very cavalier attitude about participation in a church community and raising them with an appreciation for the body of Christ. Prior to our R, we used to be on opposite sides of the fence, and now we're 180 degrees out of phase with our pre-M stances.
I know I am in danger of doing her dirty work for her. And I appreciate the warning. I have to balance that against failing to take proper action when it is really required. And I have no choice but to respond to her violating our agreement, even if it is to merely voice it to her. Which I did today in a brief note to xW (no reply as yet).
