Sandi - just re-read your list of do's and dont's. The detaching going to be challenging as we are under the same roof and will only be working a couple of days over the next 2 weeks. I have a question too...for me, should I add one to the list of do's and dont's and that is demand respect. Right now she is very disrespectful to me at home. Do I ignore that or do like I did last night and call her on it and tell her not to do that in front of the kids?
I would say to "Comman Respect" instead of demanding it. The list of Do's & Don'ts work especially well for a couple under the same roof. As a WAW, she doesn't feel respect for you at this time and, yes,...you need to call her hand on it. I think it is so important that she "show" respect for you in front of the children.....even if she doesn't personally "feel" it right now. Just as you show respect toward her in front of others.....she needs to do the same toward you. Never ignore your W's disrespect.
It is not about what you feel should work in your M. It is about doing the work that gets the right results. Do what works!
