I'm gong to say the same thing to you that you told everyone else when they urged you to caution in your own sitch -- my situation and the breakup of my MR and my family is nothing like your situation.
For several months before the bomb (if not years), and thus long before I was aware my then W revealed her utter contempt for me, she was carrying on an A with her coworker and making plans to not only divorce me, but to take away my S's and every single possession we owned, and to totally replace me as H and father in my own family with the OM. Moreover, she was at the same time, long before the bomb, secretly preparing and conditioning my S's to the idea of having a new father and a new blended family. All under my nose.
And since the bomb, my now xW has done absolutlely nothing but try to railraod me into accepting her plan to eliminate me first from her life, but also to elminate me from my family's life. There has never been one iota of remorse or contrition on her part, no admission of regret, nothing -- just the oppsosite, she has sought to malign me before family, friends, neighbors, teachers and caregivers for our children -- through outright lies and character assassination. She has taken us both to court and nearly bankrupted us both in her continual bid to remove me as our S's father. She insisted on liquidating the home we bought for our family in a sour housing market.
At no point has she expressed any degree of regret for the harm she has caused our family, let alone to me personally.
Can you honestly tell me that your ex at any point treated you with such unwarranted hatred? Do I need to spell out any more differences?
