It's very liberating. We had gotten to the point where things were getting horribly ugly. I asked him for a truce yesterday, and spent most of today talking to him about how to handle our kids. I like the idea of co-parenting with him more than I like the idea of being married to him. Things could change down the road, but I'm not going to obsess on it. Right now, I feel like I need to live my life.
Something strange is happening to me, and I don't know where it's coming from.
We talked on the phone yesterday. He called to speak to D12. As I started walking to get her, S5 says to me "is he still here?" I replied, yes, he's still here. H says, tell him I'll see him soon. So I say, he wasn't talking about you. H says oh, and gets quiet.
A few minutes ago he sends me this in an email. Remember, this is the man who swears he isn't the jealous type, so I am perplexed as to why he sent it.
H email - Having some guy over to your house when the kids are there is one thing. Taking them to go stay at his house is something totally different.
WTF? For one thing, the yes he's still here comment was in reference to my brother who was over my house. I don't know how he drew the conclusion that I had someone over. That's crazy, and I would never have someone around my kids right now.
Also, what is the difference in man speak between having someone at my house and taking the kids to someone's house?
Should I email him and tell him my brother was over last night?
Just doing some mind-reading here, and we know that's not a good idea....
But I would say that he is trying to lay out what he wants you to think is ok for him to do, by telling you what it is ok for you to do. It's just drivel.
I wouldn't respond to the email at all. If he wants to let his imagination work overtime, that's his problem. If he were to actually ask you a direct question then you might answer it!
Ok, I'll ignore it. He has emailed me several more times, and now I get the impression that he thinks I have OM. He keeps harping about taking the kids around someone else. He should just ask. lol
I think he's trying to keep me from dating, by using the kids.
The BS is endless (that is what my friend used to say and it used to make me laugh like crazy!)
I would also ignore. Your story reminds me of one of H's friends "tattling" on me a few months after my H moved out. I was out to dinner with my mom and stepfather and we were eating at a little pub in my neighborhood. It was summer so we were sitting outside. My mom went to the bathroom and my step dad and I sat at the table to wait for her. The next day I got an e-mail from H saying "so and so saw you having dinner with a MUCH older man last night".
Um, okay. I ignored him totally but found it rather ironic as my H had been in an affair for months and months at that time and we had been living apart for at least 3 months and the legal proceedings had started. Funny when the shoe is on the other foot for these dense WAH's!
My H to this day still mind reads and speculates and I ignore that as well. Its rude and stupid and if he does not have the respect or courtesy to ask me directly what he is *sure* he knows then I simply do not bother.
Granted, I am so over this situation, we are legally separated and I am literally counting down the days until Nov. 17, 2010 so I can file for divorce but my goodness, it is interesting to hear the WAS continue to try and make the rules!
I am going to call you "Happy Girl" even though your user name is Sad Girl
Okay, you two are making me realize that this might be normal crazy man behavior. I haven't been separated 2 months, and he already has me spending time with OM. lol
Even if I planned to, I would NEVER take my children. For one thing, how could we do anything?
I got a good laugh at the step-dad thing too. He didn't want this old man stealing his woman.
