Hi True, Well, it appears that your xh is like mine....always wanting something and doesn't want to face the fact that divorce means "that's all folks" in the department of money and other things. I'm glad you have learned the fine art of going dark/dim w/him. But, I can assure you, he'll be asking again very soon. It's called "if I badger her enough, she'll give in". Don't do it.
Let's hope that he can be a friend and not one that is manipulative and a bully. I think you know how to handle him now.
As for the dating scene....you'll have another year of enjoying the company of the opposite sex and who knows...you just might meet someone you really enjoy being in the company of.
I'm glad to see that you are spending Christmas w/family.
Merry Christmas and may 2010 bring you lots of fun and many adventures!
