well she came by this afternoon, dropped off a christmas card just for me, with some heartfelt words, asked for a hug and then walked away with tears in her eyes, I do feel bad for her but I can't budge on the honesty issue, I want the full disclosure & transparency, without it, a 1000 of these christmas cards isn't going to do anything for me - I'll take the truth & honesty over a christmas card any day of the year!