He had a 1.97 last year.... I wish he would have just said he was going to goof off for a year, could have stayed home and saved a lot of money! This time, he was warned. Going to be interesting to see how he gets to a job without a car. There are a few places he could bike to, if he can get a job. And there are a few that he could walk to from his mom's house. I am hoping this isn't what it looks like. but.......
There is hope he can turn it around. My older daughter and I had an agreement when she started college. If she did not pull a 3.0 GPA I would not pay her tuition for the following Semester. Well in her Freshman year she got a 3.5 in her first semester and then a 3.1 in her second semester. In the summer we had another talk and I reminded her of our agreement. Well her first semester of her Sophomore year she pulled a 2.4 grade point average. I refused to pay the tuition the next semester and told her if she earned a 3.0 to 3.5 I would reimburse her for half of the semester and pay her full tuition beginning the next semester. I also told her if she earned 3.5 or higher I would reimburse the entire amount and again pay for the next semester's tuition. Well, surprise, surprise she came home with a 3.75 and never once fell below a 3.5 the rest of her undergraduate course work. This next Spring she will complete her PhD course work in Criminal Sociology. Sometimes a little bit of tough love goes a long way!
Oh, there's no question that he CAN turn it around. And I expect he will, in the end. But he is going to make it a lot harder on himself than it had to be!
Well..... I called X to tell her what was going on. I didn't realize it, but she was with S20 at the time (took him to get a haircut), so she talked to him right away. She pretty quickly came to the conclusion that he needs some counseling, and from what she said he was amenable to it. It seems that he feels that he has been led down a path without a lot of input into it, and he doesn't know what he wants. I don't imagine having a control freal mother had anything to do with that. That wasn't nice, was it?
Anyway, I am going to call my C tomorrow, though I am not sure there will be anyone there. The plan would then be for the lot of us to go in and try to make a plan. It's got to be done next week, since he is going to visit his GF the next week. My gut feeling is that he should not go back to school this semester, though that has the disadvantage of taking him from his friends. But I am thinking he needs to be where we can watch him.
Do you mean that he feels he's been led down a path by you an xw? I hope you get thrugh to the C and can have a good sit down to discuss his direction. 20 is a tough age.
Merry Christmas Jeff! Enjoy and try not to think about what you're eating.....the diet can start next week!
T19 M15 S19 XH47 M43 bomb12/4/07 PA5/07 S12/26/07 D final 11/17/08 Back together with no defined R 05/2010 confused....to say the least!!!
And Happy Birthday to S11 - having a birthday this time of year kind of sucks, gets lost in the holidays, but I'm sure you guys do something to make it special for him.
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(((((mishka))))) I'm inclined to think that what S20 needs is diretion. I'd rather he not go off to school without a little of it. He doesn't need to know exactly what he want to do.... just some ideas would be good! XW is really worried about him, I'm less so. I hope I am right, but for now I am going to let her assume the worst, it's safer that way.
S11 is now S12... had dinner at Outback at his request. Can't do that very often!
Need to wrap a few presents. Christmas is different this year, but we are ok!
