Sandi, I have really appreciated the insights that you offer in your posts. I was curious, could you drop by my thread and lend me some of your valuable wisdom?
Essentially, I am Day 10 post exposure of the A and the assertion of clear boundries. She reluctantly agreed to end it with no contact. W is depressed and angry. Of course, Coach says the next step is to release my negative emotions and rebuild our friendship. I am struggling to release my anger. It's happening. Interestingly, she has stopped talking D and has backed off to possible S at some point in the next year as an opportunity for us to work on our R. (Yes, that is right.) I am flirting with coming out of the dark and making myself abit more accessible and open to her. What do you think?
Says she does not want to hurt my feelings, also does not want me to be misled by her I love you....
Don't know what that means?
We had to speak to set up meeting place to exchange gifts for kids on both sides of family. We spoke breifly on phone. I gave my gifts to MIL instead of meeting with W. W did not bring her gifts to S18. So, I put her name on the gifts here with mine so that S18 would not think mom forgot. It was late, W said she did not stop because she thought I was asleep.
Hope ytour day went well...
Merry Chritmas S2
Me 43 / W 40 T 29 / M 15 S-18 11/4/09-ILYBINILWY 11/10/09-Separated 12/1/09-W admitted EA 12/5/09-W admitted PA 12/24/09 W say "I love you"
"A GOOD MARRIAGE IS NOT ONE WHERE PERFECTION REIGNS"
Can you start a thread in the newcomers section explaining what drop the rope means.
Oh my gosh! I have posted it twice tonight and didn't even see your note to me. Ohhhh.....we are thinking alike? That could be scary.
ummmm.....I don't mind starting a thread in Newcomers about it. I think they may be getting ready for me to close this one out anyway....lol. Just don't want somebody to think I am some kind of authority on the subject. As if they would!
Thanks, sweetie.
It is not about what you feel should work in your M. It is about doing the work that gets the right results. Do what works!
