K4D It's a Wonderful Life

[K4D]

Bingo... You are letting some of these women treat you like your wife does.. Think about it... They are only doing this because you allow it and keep apologizing. Stand up to them. It will be good practice for how to deal with your wife. You actually haven't been wrong on a number of issues that you have allowed others to convince you of being wrong on. You are just fine. Don't let them talk you into believing anything differently. YOUR reality is what matters. Don't let others opinions get turned into "facts" just because they say.

I'm not sure this is the place to practice standing up especially when I am seeking advice to apply for my sitch and I am graciously being given it here. I also don't think standing up here would benefit me in people trying to offer advice and help. And I don't think anyone here needs to be stood up to as everyone is trying to help me. The best thing I can do here is listen and apply what is being offered for my sitch. On top of that, I just don't really see anything to stand up to on here anyways. Standing up to people on here is going to cause me to lose advice that might have helped me. Have to keep an open mind on these boards and take in all the great advice given so I can better help my sitch.

I don't really think I am being pushed around. I listen and choose from what everyone advises me and and apply what seems to work best for my sitch from the help offered here.

For instance, yesterday W asked me if I had plans last night. Instead of answering her yes or no, I texted back saying "whats up?". Based on what was going on, I would decide whether or not I wanted to adjust what I already had going on. That was a decision I made. When she explained what was up, I decided that was worth doing.

I do think some of the things I have decided in the past were valid, but I certainly wasn't right on all of it, or even perhaps a lot of it. I also know that I don't know everything and there is a lot of knowledge and experiences from people that can greatly benefit me on here. I don't think it is weak to admit that someone else's advice is better than my own. I find that smart to see that and apply the better peice of advice from someone else than something stupid I may have done in place of it.

I know not everyone agrees on here with everyone as we all have similar but different circumstances. Some of us have different goals for where we are right now. Thats ok. Some of us have goals that have fluctuated at times and even back and forth. That is ok. This is a hard situation for most people to be in. Ultimately everyone wants to come out of it in a better situation than they went into it with in whatever form that may be.

But Gucci, I don't disagree with you or SM or CG or others that have said I need to make decisions and stands on my own. I do, but I pick and choose those times. And sometimes I miss the opportunities to apply it best. It is still a learning process. But I think I am learning as I continue on.

Kevin