Boundaries

[ClingingToHope]

I, I, I, I, me, me, me.

I don't know. I was always one to write letters to W -- especially when things were getting really rough -- and they worked, but with far less regularity and at the end they worked in reverse.

I did write W a letter about three months into our separation and it lead to the one good conversation we've had. I talked mostly about the mistakes I'd learned I'd made and apologized. I didn't say anything about not being friends or dating others. That'll play itself out in the end.

I would wait until someone like Sandi or Greek weighs in on this. A WAS doesn't think like an LBS. An LBS would get this letter and swoon in a second. A WAS may just look at this as the last desperate attempt to shame/blame them into coming back and seal the deal.

In fact, a poorly written letter may be worse than a loose comment. You can forget those eventually. A letter that strikes the wrong chord can be stored forever to be read when the WAS is doubting his/her decision.