I was never good at setting them. Now we have been separated for 6 weeks. Over the last year and a half, she changed between staying and going every two months. I don't know if I should try this now, or if it is even worth it. What do I have to lose? How long can I wait? I have been treating her like a princess for a year. It didn't work. No contact is one thing, but should I send her a letter too? Something like:
This letter is for me rather than for you. You have already told me enough. I just tried so hard to make up for past mistakes and truly believed that, with time, you could see me for the wonderful person I am.
You are my dream girl. Now you are just a dream. I wish our paths had crossed at some point in our struggles, except for that brief, wonderful moment in our youth. We wanted the same things.
I wish you never took my issues personally. I made it impossible not to. I needed help. I was crying out for love and affection. I never knew how to ask. That is gone now. I am a better man.
I respect your decision to divorce and to see other men. I respect you. I will not support your decision by waiting for you, contacting you, or being friends. I need to keep my respect. I am more confident in myself than I ever have been. I will not continue to struggle, internally and externally, for someone who has moved on.
Passion, romance, and communication didn’t bring you back. True love didn’t work. If that was pressuring, pushy, or needy so be it. I was going after what I wanted. To lead life, rather than for it to lead me.
It’s time for me to give up on you. We can both relax now. I expect to have no contact with you in the future, unless it is to talk about the kids. I wish the best for you. I hope you find the love you are looking for. I love you. I always will.
