Start with acting-as-if, you are already doing a good job of that. The detachment will follow.
I had to distract myself. Dinner with friends, going for a walk (usually didn't work if I was alone though, too much thinking time), going running, hitting the gym, watching non-romantic comedies, taking out my frustration by rearranging furniture or cleaning. If I didn't, I spent far too much time thinking about what was going on, which inevitably resulted in crying, especially the first few months.
I posted here A LOT. I checked this place obsessively at work, at home, on weekends. I was constantly seeking support and feedback. This place was such a blessing, cuz I got it.
I talked to a few of my real life friends. I met a woman who lived 5 miles from me on these boards and we became pretty good friends (she R with her H, it definitely can be done).
Now, I rarely log in here evenings and weekends. There are still parts of it that are surreal. I can't quite believe he actually did/said some of the things that he did. But it's been 2 1/2 yrs since the bomb. It took me a good six months to really start feeling normal again.
Michelle - Proud DR Rockette S: 28JUL07, D'd: 29OCT09 http://tinyurl.com/27j9qo2
