Well H admitted he has "generalized anxiety disorder" and I looked it up and wouldn't you know "irritability,impatience, suspicion" and more that does fit with what I exper tience as verbal abuse. H always said that when I experience him as angry, he experiences himself as anxious.
Well that's that. A diagnosis. Still, I see him working on his behavior since MC at least apologizing and communicating. This is the biggest step. We haven't had this in months. I asked for xmas that he spend an evening just with me - walking around the city looking at lights - I know, pursuing. But I asked, and he said yes. We'll see if he follows through.
