The other day, me and H were talking about the past and I mentioned him leaving me. He said he didnt technically. I asked him to after he said he didnt have it in him to try and after a year of treating me like an enemy (in the middle of his A). That got me thinking if I was wrong to insist he had to move out right before Christmas because I couldnt handle walking on eggshels anymore. I think, it was the wisest emotional decision I made. If he had stayed in the house for any longer, granted I felt they way you describe, tired and "abused", I would have either ended up heavily medicated or in prison for killing him...
It is obvious you need a break and time on your own. What you have been doing isnt working. I dont care what they say about not separating. I think sometimes it is the only way to calm down. And it actually gives both partners the ability to think straight. All this struggle and effort no matter how detached we think we are is VERY emotional and stressful.
Step back. Calm down, get your energy back, enjoy yourself. You take it from there when you are ready. K
