Day, thank you. Your comments give me hope as what you are experiencing and doing matches mine. We are much better communicators and we also apologize and repair when we backslide. So this is good, right?
No talk of him moving back yet and I'm trying to figure out when I'm ready for that, and when he might be ready. It's so confusing.
Yes speding too much time together has been a problem - it's been incredibly hard for me to detach - although friends on these forums have helped me do this.
My old thread is under Newcomers at "I'm new and wondering if this works. Since the summer, H has been verbally abusive. He's always had these tendencies, but my latest analysis is that his "Generalized Anxiety Disorder" went crazy and he numbed out by overworking, being angry, blaming, etc. He wanted a legal separation and the deal was he'd go to MC after that. Since all that has been finalized, he has been softening.
Thank you for giving me patience (boy do I hate the "P-word"!) by remembering this will take longer than I want it to.
