Deployed Soldier/Father needs your help

[MichelleLT]

Limit interactions with her to stuff relating to the kids.

Spend as much time with the kids as possible before you leave.

Talk to the kids as much as possible while gone. If necessary, get your L to get something in writing so that you have times and days you can call to catch up with them.

You don't have any control over her. You never did. You had influence, but not control.

The kids and you are what is important right now. Take care of yourself and be there for them.

She's acting like this because she's hurting. It's NOT personal!