Deployed Soldier/Father needs your help

[SoldierDad]

All,
My biggest problem in all of this is that she is including S15 in all of her plans, and almost confides in him about what she is doing.

Also, I am really trying to detach, but my W is doing/saying/texting me things to hurt me. I am fine for a few days, and then she will do something to hurt me. Like her telling me she changed the locks-she knew that would hurt me.

I know I need to let go, and I have in alot of ways, but there is still a small part of me that aches to help her, and tell her that I still love her.

She sent me a text on Monday saying that she didn't love me anymore and she could sleep with whoever she wanted now. Just stuff like that, to really dig into me. Of course, I didn't respond to her, but she has to know that it hurts me.

I have asked this before, when does she start feeling some of this emotional pain I am feeling?

When does she realize what she is doing to our family? Our boys? She is so selfish in all of this.