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[AliSuddenly]

Hey Mish, dont say that! You do sound better nowadays thouh and compared to a year ago, but I know its still tough juggling everything.

So how is the Wii workout?? I've never seen that and the only time I ever played a Wii was at Marias house, when her son and daugher and bf let me have a go that was

I was thinking about Gabe yesterday and how similiar alot of these WAS are, how depressed he was/is and how he has at time hinted at suicide or running away. Its like he probably hates himself, like my bf does and knows he has made bad choices, but he just cant quite make the leap to change his life and bad choices and get real help. Its really sad, well for him and for Marc anyway.

Wishing you a lovely Christmas Mish.. I just remembered you messaed me on FB and I havent checked there in ages, doh! Ok, gonna do it now....

Love Al xxx

[ClingingToHope]

I'd tell you to ship the cheese balls to Illinois, but I'm sure you've already found other uses for them.

I love the Wii fit game as well. My sister is actually buying me a Wii for Christmas so I don't have to borrow the one from my old house on my weekends with the girls.

One positive from my sitch is that my sister and I have talked a lot more and gotten a lot of things out in the open. Just like with W, we'd made a lot of negative assumptions about each other that turned out not to be true.

Hope the next couple of days go well.

[dday101798]

I love hearing about it, I have to live vicariously through someone. There's no possible happiness over here so it's nice to see that someone around here is getting there!

Mish, it's not all roses and not 100% happy at all times. The mind plays some serious games with you at the point where I am at right now and brings a whole new meaning to walking on eggshells.

Like I was trying to tell you, I'd look at is Gabe spent time with Marc instead of broom and her son, GOOD THING.

I think the hardest thing for a WAS to do is swallow their pride and admit they were wrong. In looking at my (x)W, it looks like there's 3 stages. 1-to them selves and pause to heal/console themselves. 2-To us the LBS, then pause again to affirm themselves they have made the right choice and just haven't confused themselves, again. 3-(and where we're at now), to all the friends and family, probably the hardest part, after all the re-writing history and falicies that they spewed out to validate what they were doing (especially in the instance of an A).

Personally, from what you are saying and how he is acting recently, I give serious thought to Gabe being well in step 1 above. Are you at all prepared for step 2?

[MichelleLT]

Of course you have happiness! Don't be silly.

Don't let your happiness be tied up in other people!

[mishka422]

There's no possible happiness over here

Oops!!! Jeff, that didn't come out like I meant it in my head. I only meant romantically, that stuff is done for me but there are so many other things that bring me happiness now and I'm slowly learning that romance is definitely not something for me. More trouble than it's worth! I'm just a sap though so I love to hear other people's love stories.

The Wii is awesome!!! I have so much fun and get such a wonderful workout. I also got the new Jenny McCarthy workout that comes with a camera that shows you on the screen and critiques your moves alongside hers. It's a little intimidating but you want to talk about a serious sweat???? Whew!!

Ali, you are right about the depression. Gabe's thoughts are very similar to your bf's. He doesn't like himself, he thinks he's incapable, etc. Sad situation, but it's his to deal with.

CTH - That is wonderful that you and your sister are putting past issues to bed. It's so important to maintain your family connections especially when you are in a traumatic time.

Personally, from what you are saying and how he is acting recently, I give serious thought to Gabe being well in step 1 above. Are you at all prepared for step 2?

Dylan, I don't know if I would want step 2 to occur. I would like to hear him say the words that he made a mistake. It would be a kind of sweet justification. However, I know he made a mistake, many of them, but I know the man he is and that man is not someone that I want to be involved with any longer. We are able to talk to each other and even joke sometimes and that is a good step forward, especially for Marc. He doesn't need to be exposed to his mother's resentful attitude toward his father. That is definitely not healthy.

Gabe had told me last week that he was planning on trying to make his mom's tamales. You have to understand, this is a man who doesn't really cook. He can make the usual - spaghetti, eggs, burgers - but tamales are a real undertaking and can take several hours depending on how many you're making. I was listening to something on tv yesterday while doing my candy making/baking (10 hours of that will send you to the funny farm!) and they mentioned tamales. I shot a text to him asking when he was attempting the tamales and he called me back to tell me he was going to make the masa that afternoon and steam them and if they came out ok he would bring them over when he picked Marc up for karate. He brought them.....they taste just like his mom's!!!!! YUM! I jokingly told him that he had this secret talent all of those years and never made tamales for us! He said sorry and I told him he was just going to have to bring them over every year now. He was sheepish and said he would.

See, I can have a good interaction with him without feeling like I want to bite his head off. I think because I have absolutely zero expectation of him manning up to his responsibilities, paying what he's supposed to pay, spending the negotiated time with Marc, that I am much more at ease around him.

That's a plus for me! YEAH!

[MichelleLT]

Yay!

My friend told me a horribly racist joke (please keep in mind this man is Mexican himself lol): why do Mexicans always make tamales for Christmas?

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So they always have at least one thing to unwrap!

[mishka422]

ROTFLMAO!!!! That is so funny! I'm sending it to Gabe the next time he sends me some silly text. He'll love it.

[MichelleLT]

LMAO

[ClingingToHope]

Mishka, I need your input on a question I posed in my sitch.

[mishka422]

Got to it a little late CTH but FWIW the text was a better idea even if it was a bit of pursuing.