This evening she went out, to work out at the YMCA and run some errands. I poked around on her computer, and found an e-mail (from 10 days ago) to someone from the classifieds, saying her marriage has fizzled, describing herself as "ready to connect."
Strong boundary needs to be in place with serious consequences.
"Wife, I understand you are not happy. I have decided that I will not share you with another man. If you contact another man for the purposes of a relationship, I will pack your belongings put them in the garage and expect you to move out in 2 weeks."
If she gets in a relationship she will totally be in a fog that will thwart any of your efforts. It is imperative you take this stand. It's about her behavior that is unacceptable to you. So it's not a ultimatum it's a choice she can make. Do you understand this?
M22,H45,W45 S21/18D12 Retain faith that you will prevail in the end, regardless of the difficulties and at the same time confront the most brutal facts of your current reality, whatever they might be.
