All this time passed - now what?

[tmarie]

I have not written here is quite some time.. But I need input and help..
The bones about it - I have been DB'ing for 2 years I thought it was working until I realized the contact between H and the OW has not ceased - I left feeling used, cheated and humiliated. He still wanted the D and the OW. so I gave in - I moved out, tried to get a life - I even started dating -
I believe my H is definately in a MLC - the last 2 years his main focus has been the OW - (pls know she is from the philippines, he has met her twice in person over the last 2 years - she is a scam artist to which I have proof.) Recently he returned from a trip abroad to visit her, I knew this, though his family (they were house sitting at our family home), knowing we were getting a divorce, had no idea WHY were were, they had no idea the OW exisited, they thought I walked out on my family! Needless to say I had a frank conversation with his mother, I needed to express my concern for my stbx - I think he needs help and I though MIL should know what was going on with her son..
Anyway H returns from abroad, and a couple of days later the OW breaks up with him, H is in a bad bad way emotionally.. I offer my support – as a friend – mind you the man has been my best friend for 18 years – we had problems in our marriage yes – but nothing that couldn’t be repair had we known what to do.. So he opens up - tells me a lot of the story how OW feels bad – and doesn’t want to be a mistress (even though we are ready to sign on the dotted line) anymore, that is it is her fault we are getting a divorce. He tels her NO NO NO – this would have happened anyway - he even asked me to talk to her…to tell her it wasn’t her fault – desperation – asking ME??
So the claim is he promised not to conact her – she is extorting ME for money – she wrote to me – and told me in so many words that “ I gave you your husband – fix your family – you owe me “ , seriously – this is what she wrote.. now I am not so stupid as to comply – but like I said she has been scamming for 2 years – the well is dry (H is in a finacial pickle now) and she is a sociopath – I am convinced. I have the documentation to back up my story – but H is in such a clouded place right, he would never believe me – OW is the saint –

There is sooo much to this – feel free to ask more questions – I invited H for Christmas dinner – he accepted – What now?