Talked with W again this morning. Told her about wanting to turn the ship around and using the time apart to think and come up with solutions and that I also asked for her ideas. Told her that her opinion matters and at first W said nothing. Then she changed the topic to bills that need to be paid. Then W came back to what I had said and started to pry into what I wanted to talk about. I said that I want to first think about it and then talk about it. I did not want to get into it over the phone. I was the first to say good-bye. (Not like me) I think that she is wondering if I have changed my mind about moving out. (which I have) She can go if she wants to.

Taking it one step at a time.

"The first step in the acquisition of wisdom is silence, the second listening, the third memory, the fourth practice, the fifth teaching others."
Solomon Ibn Gabriol