Partner left after 9 yrs - 18months on, reunited !

[AliSuddenly]

Hey everyone, I'm thinking of you all over Christmas and thanks to everyone for all their help this year, wow what a difference a year makes for us all.

So he started on his ADs. He's being very loving becuase he just wants hugs and snuggles (he held me all last night whilst we wrapped presents and watched comedies) so theres definite upsides to his depression !

I was a bit firmer with him on the ML. I asked him about work, socialising.. he explained he makes himself do thins that he knows is good for him, so he makes an effort so I pointed out he said that he wanted to show me love and it was vital to our new R that we keep connecting and DO ML, so he needed to make an effort with that too instead of just saying, I cant. He got it and agreed, so that was good.

He said he doesnt understand why people bother with him, I said everyone loves him but he said only because they see what I show them, not the real me.., and went on to say he doesnt like himself, not AT ALL. I've never heard him say that before. He said he is consumed with guilt (over me and his Dad etc) and hates himself for things he has done. I got him to give me some examples and whilst they were a little valid, he cant take 100% responsibility for those examples, its not all his doing. I really hope this new honesty and tearfulness is some sort of bottom and the start of him feeling better about himself and able to enjoy life!