I guess I am inclined to take the higher road...and recommend you do as well. He is the kids' father. (arrggggh I still feel protective of you and conflicted as I type that!!) So something like a giftcard to somewhere is not so bad. The amount doesn't matter that's for sure.
Somebody over in Newcomers suggested that you get them a giftcard, but not a giftcard that they would expect (ie. for a shop they always use or is popular) but for a shop that they are unlikely to use or don't use often. Don't make it too obvious you are being awkward (ie. don't buy it for a store that only exists in another State!) but make it impersonal and having little care put into it - it's a token gift.
Remember whatever you buy he will know it's from you even if it's through the kids.
On the flip side, your kids are old enough to make their own decision about presents for him. Let them decide and let them own it (in a nice way not the usual way we talk about owning it in here).
W get's nothing this year - card or present - but that's my choice.
Last edited by P17; 12/23/0910:01 AM.
Me 36, W 34 | D 8 | M 3.5y Sep 2Aug09 | Left 6Sep09 | OM in 10Oct09 | NC 17Nov09 | Gave up caring - Jan 2010
"Have integrity. Do what is right, not what is expedient." "Delay is the antidote for anger"
