Some nice stuff there GW, nice to see you're gaining some strength and independence, nice to see you getting closer to your kids.
Of course W is angry, you're the cause of all her life's misery, don't you know :P.
What boundaries exactly have you set? (and what consequences?). I hear you about wanting the best for the kids, and I hope it does not get to that point for you, but at SOME point you have to be prepared to tell her to move out if she violates certain OM boundaries. How certain are you about her sincerity and strength about NC and cold turkey? Conventional wisdom will tell you it's probably lies. Right now you'll have to "trust but verify" (to borrow from Puppy) with a transparency plan agreed upon. If her main motivation is not to "hurt OM since he is a special friend", that's not gonna last very long, and is detrimental towards the right mindset anyway. A's can take on a life of their on, they don't need to be in constant physical contact.
Facebook? Some on here would call it the devil's work.
Watch the anger as well. I'm not sure it's altogether healthy to look forward that way to your W getting pissed when the presents are opened. You're in this to try and work things out, not to score points right?
Me 42 W 39 Married: 11 Jan 1998, T: Since 1992 First Bomb: Sep 2007 Confirmed A/OM: 4 Nov 2007 Kids: D10, S5 Reconciled and together again after (alot of) time and heartbreak. 3rd kid, S, born 2 Jan 2010.
