Looking for Advice

[gutwrenching]

[quote]Do not talk to the mutual female friend about this. First of all, it is not wise for you to lean on a female at this time. I believe it is inappropriate. Second of all, this will be seen by your W as you gathering allies./quote]

Got it...won't go there. Glad I never did.

And if there was any doubt before, it is erased now...she is certainly angrier at me tonight than she was the last 2 nights. Sunday night after the confrontation, she was just sad. She even seriously debated sleeping in our bed and almost did.
Monday she supposedly ends the EA and Mon night, she is mad, but says she will try to be civil because of the girls. She comes home at decent time from work.
Tuesday, whole nother story. She is IRATE, over the top, would probably like to spit in my face. Could it be that she isn't getting her fix to her addiction? Don't know. If I hadn't mentioned it before, I would describe my W as having and addictive personality, so that does worry me. But I also have seen her quit addictions cold turkey in the past...so I don't know. Of course, she wanted to quit those, big difference with this sitch.

QUESTION for my advisors/supporters: what about facebook? I did not discuss facebook in my boundaries. I am watching, via her computer (but not in a degrading way when she is around) and they are no longer posting to each other but they can see each others pages. I'm somewhat inclined to let it go for now and monitor and see what happens and see how often she goes and looks at OM's facebook page. It was one of the first things she did tonight on the computer...I went and looked too...nothing towards her. In fact, OM and OM's W were chit chatting almost flirting back and forth. I cannot tell if she looked Mon night because I had to tweak a couple of settings so I could later monitor the web pages she was visiting.

On me: I am happy to report that I am finally feeling some anger towards her. I've stopped feeling sorry for myself and my situation. Having another great night with the kids helped, her being so selfish and staying at work helped, and being cognizant of her disrespect helped (which I saw in front of the kids), and her getting even more angry helped because I don't deserve the anger, I didn't have the A.