By no means am I trying to lead you down the path of calling it quits. Hope can be good, Hope can be your enemy. In my case, Hope was my enemy. It wasn't until she stepped across my boundary that I realised I can't do it anymore. She knocked the hope out of me. Look, I saw the texts in month two to the other man(exboyfriend from 20 years ago)--I love you, Loved you for 20 years. I got the it is just a friend, going through a tough time...Right and do I have idiot written across my forehead.
I got the whole superdad thing. I got you have become everything I wanted, but too little too late. She made a decision not to fight for the marriage or our family. She will have to live with the guilt, not me.
You are early on in the process. It is like a death. You have to go through all the stages. You can't skip them. Clearly, you can see I am in the anger stage. Angry that she was a coward for not speaking up years ago to tell me she was unhappy. That is about the only thing she said I was right on.
But everyone chiming in is right. Someone has to be the adult. That is you. That is why you are here. None of us are truly past it yet, otherwise we still wouldn't be here. I read the books, did the 180's, GAL. I watched my wife by her new Cougar wardrobe, go out till 3am drinking..She bascially turned my life into a bad "B" movie.
Right now all you can see is your own pain and anguish. You may not think so, but that will subside one day. And then you will know what your path will be for you and your kids. I do hope it works out. But you also need to be working on yourself, your finances, your kids in case it doesn't
Good Luck on your new Journey. It is one you never wanted or dreamed of, however, it was you now have to take as do your kids.
Be strong.
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