What can I do to save my marriage? Help

[Sleepy]

Coach,

Is that all I need to do...share my day? Today I used the advice I took from one of the books I read and just shut up and listened to her experiences about driving in the holiday traffic. I validated her experience. It seemed like things went well.

Later, she went out Christmas shopping and when she came home I was on the couch reading a book to one of my kids. She went off on me for not starting the meat loaf for dinner. It kinda threw me because I didn’t even know I should have been making the meat loaf. I've never done that before. There was no phone call or text telling me to get it started...Nothing but anger because I wasn’t doing anything. Calmly, I told her if she would have let me know I would have been more than happy to get it started. Then I moved to another room with my child and finished the chapter of the book.

Later, I was helping her hold a bowl while she scooped something in it and of course out of the two choices I had to hold the item, I picked the wrong one. It cracked me up when she sarcastically told me this and I couldn’t stop laughing, then we both were laughing.

It just seems like she is just looking for things to get angry with me for and all are trivial. I’m getting mixed signals. I don’t think she is seeing an OM now. She wants me to trust her. I still see occasional anger but it isn’t as severe.

How can I let her in my room? Will it just take some time? Do you think she will give me the signal or should I still force that master bedroom play there was talk of earlier?


Thanks all of you for your responses. They all have helped me a lot. It seems since I came to this board things seem to be going in the right direction now.

R2C, I will keep the other women talk out of it. It was an uncomfortable laugh so I think that statement bothered her.