feel like giving up - talk to me!

[Deep]

I would agree with Gnosis but might add that taking that direction should come with NO expectations. It works, but it might not always work in the same way.

There are different dynamics with OPs in each sitch. IMHO, a key aspect of As is the sheer thrill and illicit excitement that goes with it. The love chemical fog that is induced can blind the WAS to everything, even (or more accurately, especially) the "good" stuff. Stability can = boredom, which when contrasted to the stomach churning love fog, leads to the dreaded "I love you but ...". No telling how long this might last. You just create the best possible you and the family environment that any sane person would want to be part of.

The point I'm coming to is that you gotta factor that in, or any simmering resentment you may be feeling is gonna blow when you don't see the "expected" reaction.