feel like giving up - talk to me!

[Gnosis]

Thanks for posting this Rocked, and NO you didn't post it before.

Luv, pay attention to the bolded text:

But, one of the things I did which turned out to be quite successful was to make our home a place my H wanted to come to. I would light candles in the evening, try to make nice meals, tidy up etc. I would work on making the home environment as calm as possible. I did this mostly for me and the kids, because we needed a calm enviroment while their dad was acting like a self-centred a$$! But, later , after H ended A and re-commited to the M, he told me this was something that "f'ked with his head". I said, "In what way?" He said, "I would leave OW whose life was chaos, drama and dysfunction with her constant demands, and come home to peace, and calm, and... a HOME and a FAMILY". I had my boundaries in place, but I didn't pressure, badger, etc. He said he would find himself asking, "How can I leave THIS for THAT?"

See? This stuff works. I wouldn't steer you wrong.