Silly ol' Bear said it better than I could. Thanks Bear!
I had lots of anger and built up resentment to get past before she could see the real me inside that was hurting. It took many times of talking and writing to her explaining in many different ways what I was feeling. Many of you have an easier road than I did with my infidelities as well.
One thing DQ helped me understand was that the conversation continues no matter what. Notice I said conversation. You have to learn what she is thinking as well. Little by little what you are trying to explain to her (each other) will seep in. It may not happen in a day, a month or even a year. I was almost ready to give up after a year. When I was ready to throw in the towel, enough had gotten through to her that she wanted to make it work at that point. I had dropped the rope and she had picked it up.
The point is this all takes time and even then the conversation continues. Intimacy is all about letting her know what is going on inside.
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I guess one advantage of living in the south is that we stay nude all night after ML. Last summer we even slept nude for a couple of months every single night. Not sex every night, just snuggling. It felt great and I told her so. Also told Mrs. Cinco that this is the M I have always dreamed of with her. It made her smile.
