Just want my H back

[antlers]

1. Couldn't he have had the decency to wait until after the holidays?
2. I need to know how to handle him better.
3. Can I write him a letter, an email, telling him - relatively toned-down, how I feel?
4. He seems to have no heart or conscience right now.
5. My family and friends have helped me see good in me and the negativity in him lately, so why do I feel like it's all my fault again?

1. Decency flies out the window with a WAS.
2. You can't "handle" him. You have NO CONTROL over his thoughts, feelings, or actions...so don't bother. You do however have complete control over your own thoughts, feelings, and actions...so exercise the control that you do have.
3. He already knows how you feel. Believe me. If you keep telling him how you feel, you're just gonna remind him even more that, right now, he doesn't feel that way. Let it go.
4. That's because, relatively speaking, he doesn't have a heart or conscience right now concerning the relationship. It's where he's at.
5. That's because there is good in you, bunches of it. You're not having compassion for yourself...and you must. You must not only care about your hurts, you must be willing to do something about them.

I hope you have a great night...a restful sleep too.