Thank you all so much for your insight and believe me, more is welcome.
You all were right about the financial thing. I found out today that he has been taking more money from our account that I thought. I guess I should watch it like a hawk. I didn't push the issue but did tell him that I needed some money from his personal account to pay some bills. Put him in a bad mood for sure. I responded to his anger with calm and told him that I understand how he feels like he has nothing as he stated, but if he needs anything to please come to me.... gentle enough?
However, the say started out interestingly enough. I know he stayed the night with her last night. I called in the morning to thank him for leaving me a voicemail checking on me. I figured I would reward good behavior right? I tried to end the conversation, but he continued with the small talk. I ended the conversation finally before he could. My phone rang seconds later, it was him. He asked me if everything was okay because I sounded different. I had been upbeat on the last conversation. I replied "yea, I'm just happy I guess". I once again ended the conversation, kindly. Less than an hour later he called once again. He said he passed me in my company car. I replied impossible because I was sitting at my desk (when this all started, I was obsessed and would pass him on purpose and I think he knew this). I laughed and said "I think you probably just waved to a stranger". He softened and laughed as well. I was lucky to get a phone call a day and I got three in the matter of an hour.
He seems very aware that I am out with friends and GAL. Just a word of encouragement for those who are doing the LRT that I have started seeing positive results.
Also, I have heard through the grapevine that a mutual friend at my husbands office confronted her in a passive aggressive manner yesterday. I had nothing to do with this, but at least now she knows that everyone knows about what the OW was so desperately trying to hide. She's insecure and cares about what everyone thinks of her so I would guess this must bother her. Obviously not enough to back off my husband, but I'm sure she's irked.
Just wanted to vent I guess and share the small success from this morning. It's becoming therapeutic for me to write this and is helping me gain a more positive outlook!!!
