NC - W vanished ...

[P17]

P17,
Hey man, hope today is going a little better for you.

Today is a lot better than yesterday thankfully!

I'm a little worried that drinks, dancing, the ex, a hotel room and more drinks could put you in a bad spot. But you are a big boy and I'll trust you to do the right thing. You are STILL married, just cause your wife is cheating doesnt give you a free pass.

Sakaro, the chance would be a fine thing! LOL

It's not going to happen. I'm with D's mum (which it won't happen with) and a married woman (who would eat me alive). It should be a good night, but nothing untowards will happen. I am not THAT appealing for one person to throw their M away and the other to throw ... well, not sure what she would be throwing away. The night should be interesting especially as these are very good friends and will be going out of their way to get as many 'photos' of mysterious ladies (their words not mine) as possible. Me? I could just use the break and the laugh.

I took my vows seriously and while I am looking at dating is for the food, wine and good company (as cutter says). Nothing more.

On the no contact thing. I'm not sure I agree with the no contact thing myself, but you've played that card and will look bad if you dont stick to your word.

That's how I feel about it. She already thinks (I would knows, but I have changed) that I keep goign back and forth - I was once called the 'hot and cold master' by MIL to W. I am trying very much to get away from that as it's my emotions ruling my decisions rather than helping me make them.

I wouldnt contact over little insignificant things by any means. But I dont think saying thank you for your daughter's gifts, if she gets any, is a bad idea.

You know I get you. The IM is for contact between us, however I don't think a from the heart text saying thank you, personally, would hurt anything at all (is there anything left to hurt!). Any response can be ignored (obviously depending on what it was - I don't want to be sucked in a conversation) so the NC, while broken, is broken for a good reason. It is Xmas after all.

You said you were going for the NMMNG, which I applaud 100%. That doesnt give you permission to be a jerk though.

You are right. Thanks for pointing that out.

I didn't think I was being a jerk until you mentioned it. I simply thought I was taking back what was mine, standing up for myself etc. Sometimes you get a little too enthusiastic with these things and you take it too far!

When she begins to think she isnt getting to you...she will pull closer to you.

We will see

D's mum has agreed to get anything I want out of W's store. That solves that problem. I did think I'd need to go in for emergencies but I think I can safely try somewhere else first!

Thanks Sakaro.