I found this site a few weeks back and it has proved to be helpful. The follwoing is my story. I have been married to my WAW for 15 years and together for 22. We have two children (3 year old twins S&D). My wife had me served with divorce papers 10/16/09. I was stunned and caught off guard, she told me she was done and she no longer loved me or had feelings for me. She dropped the classic ILYBNILWY line. She had a laundry list of reasons for wanting the D. The main issues being my drinking, anger management issues, not helping out enough around the house and with the kids etc. etc. She is not wrong on many of these issues. However all of them were and are fixable and all them have been addresed by me subsequent to the bomb. She had on a couple of occassions in the last 10 months suggested/asked that we seek marriage counseling and that I also get treatment for my drinking. I brushed those requests aside as over reactions. This appears to be the classic I didn't see it coming when it was right in front of my face case. The flip of the switch was so abrupt that I asked her if there was someone else in the mix. She said no. I discovered two weeks later she was lying and there is an OM and it is a PA. I have not read either DB or DR. I did recently order DR and await its arrival. My W has indicated she is moving out mid January. Needless to say I would like to salavage the marriage if at all possible but I'm of the opinion that it is highly unlikely given the current state of affairs. We have been living under the same roof but seperate bed rooms for two months now. All advice and questions are welcome. Thank you.
M48/WAW47 M15/T22 S3 D3 Bomb 10/16/09 Seperated 10/16/09 (in house sep.) OM discoverd 10/28/09 (PA) D filed by W 10/16/09 W moving out 1/15/10 Currently in Mediation/Attorney's retained
M48/W47 M15/T22 S3 D3 In House Separation 10/06/09 W files for D 10/16/09 OM1 discovered 10/28/09 (PA) OM2 in mix early Jan. W moved out 1/26/10 In Mediation (Settlement in prep)
