hi friends , i'll say that this GAL thing is tough to do during the holiday season. I'm wondering if others are feeling the same? It's hard to do period. But i'm trying in very small baby steps. Comments appreciated...i guess i'm sulking a bit right now.
Yep - it's very hard during the holidays. Lots of reminders of former good times and "what if's" dancing in my head.
What baby steps are you trying? Maybe do something different than you used to. Start a new tradition. Maybe go see a movie or do something you used to do but gave up on.
well, we had 25 people over last nite. turned out nice. wife snuggled this am with me.This always seems like a good thing, but i'm cautious and skeptical. She gave me nice cologne and a nice card...a hallmark type but with really nice stuff about love and caring and mushy stuff. Too bad it's hallmark and not her words, but i'm sure she read it first! This is the stuff that throws me off balance; nice card, gift,snuggling,etc...but NO intimacy. As far as GAL, i went to a movie one nite solo, I went to a frinds party solo. She seems to Want me to go out and GAL. I've been very careful not to crowd her or make ANY relationship talk as per the advice here and in the book. BUT , as you know, each day is an eternity when you are waiting for some sign that there's been a turn around or change of heart.
Good job on the baby steps with going solo to the movie and the party. Staying busy is good for you, and shows your W that you're not just sitting around.
It's great she gave you a gift and card. Even if the words weren't her own, you're right that she read it and probably looked at lots of cards before she settled on that one. As far as the intimacy goes, most women feel like being intimate when they feel emotionally close to their partner. Until that emotional bank account is built up, she may not be ready. So be patient, and appreciate the snuggles and cards and small gestures for what they are. Sounds encouraging to me, but keep giving her the space she needs.
