I agree with you in that there won't be respect if i'm a doormat. When she is acting like she is now she's the one who loses out. I'm not going to help someone who won't help themselves.
The analogy of being paralyzed is a good one. Let me take that a step further. If the hurt person refuses to go and do the work in therapy and is just a lump feeling sorry for themselves would you go the extra mile for them? I would still hold out that a tough love approach may be in order.
So, can't you still love and stand back and watch.
I have my conditions in all this mess. I will not be a bank account nor a parachute. I do love her and continue to pray for her but this is out of my hands. If she straightens out her act and can treat me with the respect I deserve then the door to possibility is open.
Never say never right?
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