I think that's giving him too much credit. Was he there when you had the legal trouble with your son? (oh yeah that will look good in court)

He wants to talk now because he's not getting his way. Amazing what setting boundaries can do. He knows what he needs to do to see the boys, it his choice. It's all about behavior.

M22,H45,W45 S21/18D12
Retain faith that you will prevail in the end, regardless of the difficulties and at the same time confront the most brutal facts of your current reality, whatever they might be.